Monday, December 22, 2008


We live in an interactive world where feedback loops reinforce , shape behavior. If people praise behaviors they criticize vehemently (with good reason) in private then it is a disservice to the person and to the world . Criticizing in private and praising the same behavior is viewed by the doer as being worldly wise . It's not . It's being selfish and hypocritical.It denies the individual the opportunity for feedback and reflection ( and possibly change) . And it perpetuates the behavior . When this is done frequently by a critical mass / majority this contributes to the creation of an unhealthy culture (as in the context of an group, organization or country ).

If the relationship does not allow for constructive feedback then at least do not praise the behavior. Silence is a preferable alternative.